“I read this article. It said the typical symptoms of stress are eating too much, smoking too much, impulse buying, and driving too fast. Are they kidding? This is my idea of a great day!" - Monica Piper Life places so many demands on us, and while most of the time we might be able to rise to the challenges these pose, if stress is prolonged and excessive, it can overwhelm and lead to us burning out. Burnout is essentially when a person is mentally, emotionally...

In this video I am interviewed about men and how they might grieve, following bereavement or any form of loss. I hope this provides insight and understanding into male responses and their ways of coping, in order to best equip family, friends and colleagues to be as supportive as possible. Video of men and grieving ...

Bereavement is a psychic amputation. Just as one might lose a limb, initially you can’t function effectively and all you can see 24/7 is that it isn’t there. Gradually, you learn to compensate and adapt and have moments when you forget. But always you have times, often unexpectedly triggered, when you are reminded that the limb is missing. So too with our sorrow. You never ‘get over’ the person having died, but you adapt to breathing without them, somehow, but not quite intact anymore. Death...

We live in a pressured, competitive world, which for many leads to an elevated anxiety stemming from over overthinking and catastrophizing which often feels impossible to counter. It was this that I spoke about on BBC Radio Nottingham, trying to address how it manifests and affects individuals and relationships, and what can be done to manage debilitating results. Such thought processes that lead someone to see only the negative; to be hyper-aroused to perceived threats; to be fearful of a growing list of things, can be...

OBJECTIVES OF THE WORKSHOP “Play under the control of the player gives the child his first and the most crucial opportunity to have the courage to think, to talk and perhaps even be himself.” (Bruner, 1983) This workshop is an introduction to the principles of counselling children in a person-centred way, and the role of play therapy in encouraging those under 10 years old to safely explore feelings and emotions that cannot be verbalised. In the UK alone there are around 2 million children suffering with some...

I don’t think it’s that easy being a man in our western culture, even though on the surface it appears they hold all the power, as the gender injustices that limit women cannot be denied.  For example, men are traditionally regarded as the ‘stronger sex’; monopolise top jobs without glass ceilings and make up the majority of protagonists in the film industry. Yet this is a double-edged sword as these apparent privileges are underpinned by relentless expectations of how our boys and men need to...

Nothing feels quite as fantastic as being enthused and passionate about a topic, hoping that others will engage and be just as interested, and finding that the desired response from the audience turns out to be exactly that! My interest in "Sex in the Therapeutic Relationship" has its roots in my dissertation.  In the end, however, I felt that my research created more questions than it answered. The avenues that I could branch down seemed to multiply, each a book on its own.  For example I would...

Oh no, not again! I’m feeling somewhat punch drunk. It’s this malevolent Cancer thing which just 2 days ago descended yet another friend’s life into a living nightmare, and so the battle begins.  6 weeks ago, 3 months ago, a year ago, yet another diagnosis.  The dying of those close like my brother, a beloved childhood friend; the list goes on and on and on...

It’s an odd thing really, that if you have a physical ailment the obvious thing to do to is go and seek help from a doctor, but when something doesn’t feel right emotionally it’s often harder to reach out for support. Maybe it’s the belief that it would be somehow ‘weak’ to do so, or a concern about what others might think, almost as if we should be ashamed if we are unhappy? For this reason, although people refer to ‘mental health issues’, that term...

 I don’t know about you, but sometimes I wake up and life just feels like it’s going to suck that day. Usually I can relate it to something concrete, such as a challenge I may have at work, or I have a million crappy chores to do, or I have a bill to pay that feels a waste of my income when I’d rather spend it on something more fruitful, like...